“If you are here unfaithfully with us / you’re causing terrible damage.”
~ Rumi the poet, 800 years ago in “Forget Your Life.”
Who you invite into your inner circle matters. You can love and welcome all your neighbors without submitting yourself to harm and abusive relationship. As a pastor I’ve had to learn (and still am learning) this the hard way. Some will choose to remain in the drama triangle—victim/martyr/persecutor cycle. Some will see you as a means to the end of their needs. You don’t have to stay close to that. You can remain hospitable and compassionate. You can demonstrate a forgiving-love. But you do not have to keep close company with those who cause terrible damage.
So, in the words of a quote I read the other day, “If standing up for yourself burns a bridge, I have matches. We ride at dawn.”